Domestik Vyolans

Domestic violence rarely starts with a punch. It often starts with control that looks “normal” until you zoom out and see the pattern: isolation, intimidation, pressure, monitoring, forced dependence, and rules that only apply to one person. Dr. Beatrice Hyppolite sits down with Dr. Florenal Joseph and attorney Claudel Daniel to say the quiet part out loud and give language to what so many people feel but struggle to name. 

We walk through the full definition of domestic violence and why it is bigger than intimate partner conflict. Then we map the major forms of abuse: physical violence, sexual violence, psychological abuse, emotional and verbal abuse, economic abuse, digital abuse, and spiritual abuse. We talk about how coercive control can show up through money, work restrictions, password demands, social media surveillance, and even selective religious messages used to dominate instead of support. If you have ever wondered, “Is this really abuse if I am not being hit?” this conversation is for you. 

We also get practical about prevention and survival. We explain why healthy relationships can handle disagreement and boundaries, while abusive relationships punish contradiction. We discuss gaslighting, manipulation, the impact on children who are watching everything, and why silence in the family or community can make danger worse. Finally, we talk about reaching out for help, including when immediate safety requires calling 9-1-1. 

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Transcript

Welcome And Why Talk About It

SPEAKER_02 0:00

Hello everyone, I'm Dr. Beatrice Ipolid and this is your world. Bonjour, bonsoir to the monde, we salue encore, we disappeared on the emission Your World avec Dr. Beatrice Hippolyte. Bonsoir.

SPEAKER_00 0:55

Bonsoir Dr. Hippolyte, bonsoir Daniel. We salue and salue especially your world. It's a pleasure to be.

SPEAKER_02 1:09

Okay, so we have a programme after the programme. We have an emission that is domestic violence. What are these suggests important for brass out of each one?

SPEAKER_00 1:30

I don't know if you have to commence. I mean, Daniel commencement, or violence domestic son, and taboo, parce que parfois, but it's important to parler parce que ce n'est pas aujourd'hui. Son monde phénomène produit dans les foyers. D'ailleurs, si on rentre inhistoire, we mettre d'accord sur la definition. Nous comprenons domestique. D'abord, ensemble de comportements, you mention, ou relations conjugales, vivre and madame. You have a relationship même enemy with your abuse. You have abuser. Avec votre ultime objectives pour dominant, or

What Domestic Violence Really Means

SPEAKER_00 3:05

violence domestic, and we got comments abusive and we're not going to be able to concept. Pour important, there are a sujet qui est fait aujourd'hui, c'est pour les gens qui existent aujourd'hui. C'est pour un existant dans les pays qui vivent seulement aux Etats-Unis. Donc c'est un sujet que nous devons tirer dans la boule pour nous parler sur la table.

SPEAKER_01 3:40

Bonjour, bonsoir. It's a plaisir pour nous retrouver Dr. Hippolyte avec Dr. Joseph Sopanel. Et oui, la violence domestique is un sujet qui est non seulement important par rapport à la definition, but surtout par rapport à l'effet que nous avons dans la famille et dans la société. Je pense que c'est par rapport à cela pour nous diagnostiquer ce que nous avons comme effet et détruire en série de familles. Parce que des fois, nous insistons assez sur les gens qui sont victimes. Parce que ce sont des gens qui vivent dans la peur. And des fois c'est des engagements qui viennent venir. Au départ, et par le fait que tu remettes les gens, ou on pense que tu remettes, les gens qui sont dans la vie, qui ont supposé un support pour vous. Ce n'est pas vrai, ce n'est pas ça. Donc c'est important pour nous décortiquer avec les gens non seulement victimes, but des gens qui font abuser.

SPEAKER_02 5:10

Dr. Joseph mentionne un point qui est important, il indique that la violence domestique n'est pas seulement concentrée sur la relation et garçon, mais elle est capable de exister dans les amis, soeurs avec les frères, maman, petit, à la minute en même couverture. Mais je mentionne pour moi, Dr. Joseph, and même Daniel, bien que nous connaissons M. Daniel, nous avons plus d'aspect, mais hey, feel free pour partager l'idée pendant toute la période. Est-ce que vous avez différents types? Parce que les gens qui seulement focus sur la domestique violence, mais qui ignorent ou bien l'existence d'autres types de violence qui sont capables d'exister.

SPEAKER_00 6:19

Est-ce que vous avez plusieurs types de violence domestique et qui est-ce que vous êtes en extrêmement important parce que parfois avec les personnes, les gens suivent une forme de violence en espace que vous partagez avec les personnes

Types Of Abuse People Miss

SPEAKER_00 6:35

sans même rendre compte qu'ils subissent la violence. Et ce que nous rentrons en termes de kategorisation de différentes violences. Evidemment, les gens pensent que vous ne parlez pas de violences domestiques, vous battre les femmes, ou les femmes qui ont une garçon, la violence domestique. Mais ce n'est pas ça. Il y a plusieurs types d'après. D'après organismes internationales, par exemple, OMS, vous prenez CDC in the Italy, ONU, department who treat these affaires in the ONU, Disease Control. There are agencies of justice, for example, in Europe, categorizing violence domestic. There are other types of violence physics, we have a menacing physically, they frapped, they have violence physics. It's fundamental conjoints. Before we have relationships, we have intercourse sexual. And there are a moment to do that. We intimidate and force the violence domestic. It's the same for specific, someone who is not. Because some myth is taboo for reporting violence that you have to submit a foyer that is dehorsed. At the point, for example, in the Italy, there are 41% of violence domestic with 26% of them. It's very familiar plus, but you have a question of reporting violence. Tandis que there are violence psychological or emotional. We parle de physique, sexuelle, psychological, and emotional. There are violence verbal, there are violence, intimidators, there are violence. There are violence economics, because they contrôle financier. But no, it's contrôle. Don't préférent le travail.

SPEAKER_02 9:59

And automatically, it's the même objective violence.

SPEAKER_00 10:12

And continue violence coercive. Don't control it. And you don't have to. They don't have to have a chemicals to gauge. There are violence, you can't say that. It's the violence numeric. The violence numeric is you, you can survive lesion, who have relations with them, they will control the things. Même les messages sur les réseaux sociaux, vous contrôlez quel type de message. Ce qui parle, vous avez quel type de message, they have a ton of passing social, passenger. We are done with the resources, you can't have a lot of people. We are done. Sometimes we don't know how to create it, but we have the resources because we have to control the movement in the results social. Logically, there are a relationship that is privy, if you have password with conjoinants, it's a way. But it's not coerce, it's not force for the password. It's a form of violence that probably. Ou identique. Et la dernière violence, c'est la violence spirituelle, which is a violence domestic. Comment la violence spirituelle, monsieur ou madame, utilise

Digital Control And Spiritual Abuse

SPEAKER_00 13:00

la Bible pour utiliser les passages bibliques pour dominer, mais le passage biblique dans le fond, ils prennent la partie parce qu'ils ont besoin de domination spirituellement. And parfois partage même l'Église, you have menace, we have the pastor, we will move the pastor, you will move the sang. There's some violence.

SPEAKER_02 13:29

You have to do it, and you encourage you to pray. Parce que you mari for the meaning and divorce. Hey, if you have attention to the base, you can corrige the problem. And you have to realize violence, même les mari or madame, who have a group of amis who are touching associated, you have to be able to do it. But you have part of the équipe, but it's just contrôle.

SPEAKER_00 14:31

It's important because there are violence that you're doing, it's a lot of isolation social, they are socially participating in the group, they have it, and you can have a factor. If you have to control it, we integrate it. There are some violence violence domestic. Because for example, we have a group, we have PJ, we have Daniel who is Gardelis, we have Reginald, but Madame integrated.

SPEAKER_02 15:28

You have to do it. Okay, we have to ajout that.

SPEAKER_01 15:51

So it's important for insisting about the explicit, is at the moment we pose actionable. Because the passage. But if you have rien surrounding, if you don't have it, it's like passing, it is bad. Jeff commence par rapport à la question de la violence domestique. Dans une phase qui est assez souvent parfaite avant que nous rentrons dans la relation avec lui-même. C'est le dialogue. Je belle forme, vous avez une vie, vous avez une belle visage, et puis, okay, nous dame. Est-ce que j'aime le temps pour parler de connaître philosophiquement? Est-ce que vous avez un attitude, comportement that rentre in relations with the person, ah, parce que it's not bad for me? Or comportment, it's like violence spiritual. Or a garden, for example, apparently, you are the chef of the maison. And the gentleman who rent the version of certain authority, there are certain many. It's not that reference. But if you interpret, you sort of have the problem if you estimate that you have a servant, you have a domestic. You can say the même personality to defend.

SPEAKER_02 17:44

So automatically, and the Bible says that l'homme is the chef de la maison. Même vers la Bible, le même passage, la Bible continue to say to remember Madame, même Jean-Christ, l'Église.

SPEAKER_01 18:03

Parce que la raison, c'est pour retourner à Dr. Joseph. Un point extrêmement fondamental, c'est le contrôle. Parce que tout ce que nous faisons, c'est pour le contrôle. Pour assurer que les domine. Et pour ça, ils humilient, les maltraiter. A chaque fois que vous réagissez, ils retournent sur les mêmes actions pour rappeler spirituellement, for example. Je suis chef de la maison, etc. Ou bien, economically, même reaction à la chaîne. And so you know, therefore, we made a situation of dependence. We have to travail, we can transmit, ah, and we're saying, I'm going to say that. Mm-hmm. I provide for Madame. I'm

Communication That Sets Clear Boundaries

SPEAKER_01 19:10

occupied to the maison. There are amount because you have to have a stable, etc. But there are control. You have to sort of have 15 answer. We have a couple who are mad. Is it controller, Madame? Est-ce que we can consider that a situation of violence domestic?

SPEAKER_00 19:55

Ou même, you can empower it. I'm posing a question to reagitate.

SPEAKER_01 19:59

I'm sure you're going to get it. Alors c'est même que vous commencez à situation d'acception that will create plus problems than. Parce que we have tellement toutes les normal. You have situations of violence domestic and we have...

SPEAKER_00 20:30

Parce que we're saying who are fit, we don't know the balises, to make the barrier, they are tight, derive. And it's the dialogue fundamental, after the marriage. And then we have a couple, you have possibilities. Those are the things. And they have violence. And we don't have marital, married with madam, you can find that, it's very difficult to make it. So there are preemptive. For discuting in the day, okay, we can do it as well. Because your type of violence can be. But if you want to impose, well, Dr. Hippolyta, and we can tell you that the authority violence spiritual can make violence physics. We can frame them. We can make your violence verbal, they do the parallels that you are supposed to do, or they can. adult to adult. Don't type of violence that we have a lot, but if we are dialogue and parallel, we have the problem facilitating.

SPEAKER_01 22:15

It's extremely important. As soon as a niveau of violence domestic, principal a niveau economic, we can niveau acceptance that is facilitating. Delpay. Madame plus, Madame plus moyen. Et puis vous sentiez un calme, parce que si les garçons mentalement accepter lui-même parle de certaines dominations. Parce qu'il a dit madame, il y a des gens qui sont naturellement. If you have a marriage, if you have a niveau communication, if you have to deal with it, it's difficult to marry. Because the fait jeune position parce que you are economically independent. So we're going to say this aspect economic to dominate. There are possibilities to have domination to it.

SPEAKER_02 23:40

We have possibilities to different jeans different people who are in the environment to communicate to parler and philosophically Dr Joseph and we have a society that you have plus degree parasonic plus degree paraports financièrement and capacity financières with it to them because there are education we have but in relationship representing the language for emotional descendants we can consider the dialogue, l'importance of the communication, because you know what definitely fondamental relations and sujet domestic define what relations dans la relation fondamental fondamental relationship si c'est l'argent qui est important par rapport à l'argent X ou par rapport à l'argent Yacht sauf que la relation en violence domestique parce que nous définis ce que nous relations si plus d'argent que Monsieur fait plus d'argent que monsieur même ça arrive que Monsieur fait plus d'argent que ce n'est pas ce que vous définiez comment organiser autour de l'argent dans la vie. Parce que if you have a person who has to do violence with abus that subi for example who can commit who can respect them who can't exactly for example you don't have relations verbally abuse and oh no no no but you can valorise different violence verbal we have abuse emotional consequences probably what type of violence we can personally because what is psychic and what is psychic emotion reactions are different and encore if you have implications okay so Dr Joseph je travaille en prison malheureusement

Economic Control And Forced Dependence

SPEAKER_02 28:24

en prison 21 19 ans c'est causé domestique violence et que aujourd'hui en prison malheureusement parce qu'elle tue c'est un gros cas mais c'est parce qu'elle était dans une situation quand elle défend maman chaque maman apprend un bâton maman et petite bagaille pour lui pour te défendre maman malheureusement and utiliser papa alors obligation de impliquer les parents nous mettons la vie en danger devant 30 en prison ou bien pour toute la ville en prison nous connaissons en communauté bien que les garçons plus violent nous connaissons dans la communauté parce que la mentalité et que ce passé dans la supposée dans la famille et que nous prenons la rise et même les gens qui ont secret pour parler de Daniel je ne parle pas parler de Dr Joseph pour ne pas parler comme les gens qui ont fait non nous obliger de parler parce que si nous ne parlons pas de grand matin si nous parlons parle parce que nous trouvons obligé de parler de couteau de bâton prêter des amis pour défendre la maman qui victime et utilisant la forme c'est important pour nous parler et de l'eau aspect légal because there are too many times who are caused domestic violence if you basically survey Dr.

SPEAKER_00 31:30

I think there's what violence we enumerence violence and Haiti in Italy the pays who violence violence physique ou appliquer la violence spirituelle violence émotionnelle encore grave quelle violence nous disons que les gens sont des computer qui enregistrent les programmes ou quelque chose qui se passe dans la personne mais ça psychologique sur les problèmes et ce qui reagent exploser because you don't have violence verbale you conjoint your parents physically verbal and papa who's or enregistreel when you reply reflective with papa or mom you can't just change comportment they will be reactive they will be papa but if papa or something I'm going to say or you can treat me to you and there are effects negative that can produce the violence development is violence that is violence domestic so n'importeful parents evitarly parents evitar domestic violence est ou pour bien obligé de prendre une décision justement non seulement pour prendre decision des institutions que l'État mette en place qui offrent des portes pour introduire de manière anonyme problème confronté mais trop souvent principalement dans la communauté haïtienne nous hésitons nous hésitons et nous parlons dans la direction je ne vais pas constater la quantité de viols qui fait en haïtien par rapport à la quantité de gens qui punis pour le plus souvent et ça c'est une violence domestique qui est terrible qui existe dans la personne in position d'autority and assez souvent some families sous circuit family we have protect or grand who are infernal because the comportment who observed it has a professor who said it's not who reagent and it's just because they are capable they prefer to continue to be able to make the danger experience because we have experience we have we can get who simply you reflect because you have victims you are normal and reagent who none of violence because I reagit parce que maman and petite

How Abuse Rewires A Family

SPEAKER_00 36:41

parce qu'il ne fait pas violence c'est effet violence psychology violence emotion because there are violence verbale or physique and the violence verbale engine psychological scientific normal soum totally normal because it's the computer enregistrate and there are a sentiment particularly you abatting and there are reactions very dangerous Maria and creating situations and comportments who are relationship and Daniel principal foyer you apprentice the fact that we appreciate no situation devant we submarie ou bien madame ou bien petite qui a niveau dialogue en premier question but we enquête replier parce que déranger but preparation to enter violence domestique it's important to accept contradictory because they explicitly but if we are disposed to correct automatically rent toutes the situation domestique victim parce qu'à chaque fois que la situation fait un gestation of violence attachement reprime parce que parent but the fact that you are imprimant to accept accepted because there are situations that accepted what they have to say there are situations and if you are adult a nice violence sexual it's because you married Madame is obliged to disposal mentality Daniel in the future at the moment of confiance who exist in the approach with the sujet choice in prison Dr I'm a table premier acknowledge feeling to compromise but for it it's difficult if you have thérape Joseph trophy en prison and cancelling trophy families who visit visitors it's like a tag alors that is almost expriming because we have over who are psychologic but just for a visit normal and expriming a doctor who is responsible to obligate to attention because they have the direction that they have categorization but they address it.

SPEAKER_01 43:47

Au contraire permetting exactement parce que rempli le foie

SPEAKER_02 44:00

If you have a position, I'm mamma, I'm papa. I'm going to just brush me off and professional, we are guaranteed.

SPEAKER_01 44:15

If we are mamma, we ignore the priority of our people. And so the premier cause petit. Toujours.

SPEAKER_00 44:45

No, simply that.

Gaslighting And Psychological Traps

SPEAKER_00 44:55

Daniel Diaz qui a pile avec la violence psychologique. Parce que there are besoin de ajouter la violence psychologique. Parfois, les gens abusent son grand manipulateur. Because they are victims, it's a gaslighting. It has reason these who abuser, malgré comportement, we have gaslighting to know that they have to go. For doing that.

SPEAKER_01 45:40

You can see victims of violence. And we are beautiful. Just for them. Two soon. Mm-hmm. You want to have a vape. But Mamma, there's a lot of pantalons for the people. I'm going to say it is responsible, but they are supposed to be protected and protecting the espace environment that they are supposed to be safe.

SPEAKER_00 46:21

Exactly.

SPEAKER_02 46:29

What Daniel? You are in the studio to me. You are deliberate. Jeffrey, you remonte enough. Et puis who are studious. Je me demands petites apparemment. Petit 13 ans, je fais 14 ans. And you have an experience now when you like that. When you have a studio, they're going to have what they are. You want to have an opinion.

SPEAKER_00 47:47

The question is that is the premier question.

SPEAKER_02 47:52

He is toujours.

SPEAKER_00 47:55

Parce que petit fill, the premier protection is juggernaut if you are with Monsieur, if you have your world, je ne peux pas proteger petit. Immediatement, you have to go. 20, 25, 30, and monsieur, who has a déclaration pareil, or prêtez-la.

SPEAKER_02 48:27

Automatic, normal. You can't say you have position. And we send you a vagabond. But we sought to make a situation to statistic.

SPEAKER_00 48:57

Yeah, it's supposed to be a rapport, the line of defense for the defense. Maman who is normal. But when they have courage to choose to defend Petit, they will studio. Beautiful, he aggressively petita sexually, and create violence sexual petitita.

SPEAKER_02 49:26

It's a fashion to approach and souvent we interpret, paroles, actions that are their just valeur.

SPEAKER_01 49:48

Pourquoi it's very? Pourquoi ça? The premier instinct,

Protecting Kids And Making Hard Choices

SPEAKER_01 49:55

as meilleur. And we have to say, never pretty action. Parce que si nous victimes un peu de personnes qui marie ou mourient ou attaquent victimes physiquement, it's parce que tu as une première action. Je interprétera. Nous posons action pour protéger, protéger les gens de nos victimes.

SPEAKER_02 50:29

Exactement. Mais au point que je fais, parce que je parle de l'amour, ce n'est pas un sujet que nous parlons de domestique violence. Nous allons prendre abuser. Moi-même, avec your social workers, it's abusive. C'est time for you to quit relations. Parce que there are a relationship, there are relations that comprend en personal. Je ne sais pas si elle a une negative. But cependant, il ne faut pas descendre. Parce que quand on descend trop bas, je dis que je fais comme profession, je prête Sophia avec the people. C'est toujours ça. Parce qu'elle estimée develop d'infériority in rapport avec la fiability. Et puis les filles ont toujours fait, and we travail. And they travail, and you travaille après, and you have action, if you don't have it, it is. It's not a situation who has experience domestic violence grave. So you can make it. What are the people who are 10 person, we sauce.

SPEAKER_01 52:57

C'est anonyme. We're obligés d'identifier. On a juste un titre pour faire comprendre

Reporting Options And When To Call 9-1-1

SPEAKER_01 53:05

quelle situation. Surtout que nous avons l'attitude que nous avons des actions abusives qui ont posées. Parce que, en nous prenons un exemple, nous parlons de toute l'histoire. Vice-May de Florida, qui mourit récemment, qui est mariée tuer. Mais c'est sûr que ce n'est pas du premier coup. Il y a des questions que nous avons posées. Pour qu'ils l'ont relation. Et c'est là que assez souvent nous avons besoin de arriver. Ou même si quelqu'un vivant, nous ne pouvons pas poser question. Ou même poser relation. Poser question par rapport à la vie. Est-ce que nous allons vraiment Joseph Sudilla, Dr. Ipple Sudilla? Psychologically, mentalement, economically, at all. Because we have no statistics.

SPEAKER_02 54:30

But I could not take it anymore. So you pass enough. The fact that the 1er mari, 12, 1er, malgré la situation de domestique violence who appropriates, they are en relation because l'inverse?

SPEAKER_00 55:29

Je vous dis que je vous dis que nous parlons de personnes. Si vous avez dit, Daniel parle de 9-1-1, comme vous avez une opportunité de l'anonyme. Je vous dis, vous avez un partner, c'est la première fois que vous ferez. It's a very good thing. Parce que seulement, stop. En fait, they are intervening in the fact that it's support who positions directly, how protege is a question that they repeat. What's the one? Don't job is the mayor of Florida, Marie. Dr. Hippolyta. But the problem exists. We don't know this, we will speculate and see that. Don't know, but we have to do this, and we can do it and say, oh my gosh, if I know. Don't forget