Your world with Dr. Beatrice Hyppolite
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I am Dr. Marie Beatrice Hyppolite. I hold a doctorate in Health Science with emphasis on Global Health and master’s degree in social work. I have over 14 years of experience in the field of health and human services.
This podcast is primarily focused on mental health and the quality-of-life elements that affect it such as divorce, death, domestic violence, trauma, toxic relationships, and single parenthood to name a few. It is no secret that mental health challenges continue to profoundly impact modern society although not enough discussion is given due to stigma. Research has shown an increase of 25 % in mental health crises after COVID-19. It is important to have honest, uncomfortable conversations about mental health while being supportive. Although we are interdependent, change begins with the individual, hence “your world.”
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Your world with Dr. Beatrice Hyppolite
Foundations of Family: Building Strong Societies
Family stands as the cornerstone of society, yet its foundations face unprecedented challenges in our rapidly evolving world. What happens when parents—overwhelmed by work demands and life's pressures—inadvertently resign from their most crucial roles?
Deacon Ronald Agnan brings nearly five decades of marriage experience and professional insight to this profound conversation about family's irreplaceable role in human development. He shares compelling stories of children who, lacking parental guidance, found themselves vulnerable to dangerous influences. One particularly moving account follows a nine-year-old boy's journey from parental neglect to eventual imprisonment—a trajectory that might have been avoided through consistent parental presence.
The discussion explores how technology has transformed family dynamics, often not for the better. When screens replace conversation and media figures become primary influencers, children lose their most important guidance system. Ronald Agnan advocates for creating what he calls "platforms of comfort"—safe spaces where parents establish themselves as trusted confidants rather than distant authorities.
Quality time emerges as perhaps the most valuable family resource. It's not simply about physical presence but emotional availability—being truly engaged and attentive to children's developing needs. This engagement changes as children grow, with parents shifting from directors to advisors as children navigate adolescence.
Family structures provide irreplaceable emotional support that shields against psychological distress. They transmit cultural values and traditions between generations, maintaining crucial societal continuity. When these structures weaken, both individuals and communities suffer the consequences.
Whether you're raising children, considering parenthood, or simply interested in society's foundations, this conversation offers valuable insights into creating stronger families. The message resonates clearly: investing time and energy in family relationships isn't merely personally fulfilling—it's socially necessary.
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Hello everyone, I'm Dr Beatrice Hippolyte and this is your World. To go into the woods, to make a chita, to talk. And the reason we talk about the day-to-day is because of the importance of family, because nowadays we live in a society where sometimes we take a look at the environment and we say, hmm, what is family, what is your family's role in life? Some of you, some of you that we've always known since we grew up, have said that it's the future of a country, the future of a country, the future of a society. And, without saying too much, we're going to talk with Jack Ronald today about family importance. What is family? What is the importance of family? Who is the role of family? What is the importance of family in society? What is the importance of family in personal and emotional development of people? Without further ado, I will now pass the mic to Jack Ronald-Ayan. Jack Ronald-Ayan, it's a pleasure to be with you today in the studio. Welcome, how are you?
Speaker 2:Thank you, beatrice. I'm very well, thank God. I want to greet all the audience who have waited for us, who have taken advantage of our time and, just like Beatrice has said, it's like Ronald Allian, who worked at the Brooklyn Diocese and who is 46 years old in a week, has been married. Oh, so that means it's not always easy, but still a constant effort that is necessary to have a family, to build a family, education, and I remember that I was with a couple of pilots who got married, so it was a lot of experience. With young people like me, who always work, we have a lot of tolerance, we have a lot people who are present, so I'm happy to say that we are doing this for the sake of the family and the society.
Speaker 1:But we don't waste time, we don't take the microphone in our hands, otherwise we would have to go back to the beginning.
Speaker 2:Well, first of all, there is something that is essential that we can say, which is that FEMIA is a foundation. It is a game that builds society in life. And since it is a game that builds society in life, it deserves to be camped well, well-built, to build a good game and same firm, solid foundation. If we want to keep a society like ours. If we can build a foundation that is not solid, we can do it. If our families don't have the possibility to be solid, then the society will be founded, and if we are in a situation where we live I mean across the world we can say that a whole family will resign. Who will resign? For one reason or another? Or maybe they will not have support, or maybe they will be weak in, or they are weak in their own way. So they are the ones who are going to allow those who are out in the community in relation to all the family education that they have. They are the ones who are going to resign.
Speaker 1:Yes, but can we say I talked about the resignations that were made through FEMEYO. Can we say that? Well, if we talk about the procurement of the PANO personally in Haiti, can we consider the industrial countries? Have they influenced us? And then, with us going to influence the industrial world? And with the technology, do you think that all of this will play a role in the situation we are living, in the decline that has gained in the commitment thatI has supposed to gain in society?
Speaker 2:That's for sure. It's for sure that, because even when we say that FAMI is its foundation, its base, its eyes, that base society on life, but society itself is made to support FAMI in every sense, because naturally, when we say FAMI, we have to, or even do things for your family, for your children. You have to do things, you have to do education, you have to go to school. Of course, there are not all schools, but you have to go to school and then, even in the case of family, education or training, but to do that we need means to survive. So we need work and we need time for our families. While we have work, we need time for our families to be able to provide education. But we live in countries that are so difficult that if we don't support that or if society doesn't provide, it is not appropriate for society to support them.
Speaker 1:I would like to mention something that is really important. When I was doing research, I saw that 99%'s the people who take time to invest in their families Because they know that, as important as it is for them to earn a living every day to come and feed their families physically, they know the quality of time that they can spend with their families. That's important.
Speaker 2:That's important. It's very, very important, Because presence is important. There are a lot of people who understand that it's not everyone who knows about the situation. It's not the phone, it's not this, it's not that, and then after that you're not there yourself. So when someone is, it's like someone who has passed on equipment, on technology that they have on their phone or on a game that they have played. When someone is not happy, they are happy, but when they are not happy, it's like they have not gained a family presence, so they have to play with it and their family is not there. They have a technology in medicine, but they are on the side, on the side of the pantry.
Speaker 2:They are not there to follow, they are not there to assist, and we have a whole series of systems that are there to crush family values, to teach them, give us a series of systems.
Speaker 1:Is there any example?
Speaker 2:Well, you see all these things, for example in the media, for example, people are taking all sides of it, the pictures, the things that people present. Well, these are not things that can form people, but these are things thing to destroy people and people themselves.
Speaker 1:Are they not used to it or are they misused? They are misused. And if?
Speaker 2:they are weak if they are on the side of the woman. Manipulation comes easily for them and they are influenced by all kinds of negative manipulation. So people themselves come and put a series of negative manipulations. So Timoun is himself. He wants to put a series of barriers in society. So society has suffered, mom has suffered, dad has suffered. But for this person, as Cinta said, what is the cause?
Speaker 1:So it is really important for mom, dad. They take responsibility for their present every day in my life and then you have to understand the quality of time that is supposed to be spent. I remember that I had a cold experience. I was nine years old when I left the palace and then, while there were other people who said that they they learn to live with them as parents, but it's true that for them it was a form of pleasure, but when they are 9 years old they don't take pleasure seriously, for them it was automatically. During that time it made them seem like people who were worried. Even if you automatically heard that, it made you seem a little worried. And then, at 9 years old, I was surprised to hear that little girl say and the man said oh no, you're strict, I can't lose my freedom. So the man said I heard that at 9 years old. If someone says that I can't lose my freedom, it pushed my curiosity, me ask myself questions.
Speaker 2:Who is free?
Speaker 1:Who is not free, what is freedom for? And so, as he told me that he lived with his mother, as he told me that he was working and living with his mother always in the street the same for the adults.
Speaker 1:And when the mother comes home from work, and at around midnight, one o'clock in the morning, she's already done all the work in the street. And then it's with a lot of pain that a few years later someone informed me and I myself had experience working in prison and informed me that this little man was unfortunately in the same area where I was working. It was really hard for me, but when I recall my conversation that I had for a few years about it, I saw that it was a little man who was supposed to be getting up, but the fact that he was getting up he didn't have any guidance to take back, so you know he made them fall into a mirror.
Speaker 1:Because, it's while they're unfortunately in a situation where they have to deal with legal problems. That's when mom realized that in all the activities that they did, they were sad. It's sad. It's like we don't want that for any parent and all that our parents are able to do to prevent us from getting into that situation, that's important.
Speaker 2:Very important. That's it. When we work together with young people. I always ask myself what happened to those young people and according to statistics, there are not many young people in prison. In prison because when a person does not have our presence, and since it's you who raised your head, so since it's you who raised your head, you raised your head. You're not alone, and there are many influencers in the media we look at. This is history. It's not history. But we look at television. We have a 12-year-old who is even influenced by the telephone and the media, who is in contact with a demonic spirit. The spirit said that to be able to get a strong battery, it was necessary to kill someone. We invited a little girl to come and see if she could sleep. She slept with her friends. Yes, yes.
Speaker 1:She was wearing a sleepover.
Speaker 2:Sleepover, that's right. So they slept and when they arrived, about 11 or 11 and a half minutes later, they decided to go with another one. They arranged it and the other one arranged it so they could kill the other one. So they said we're going to go to the front, we're going to the front, we're going to the front. And then, when they were at the signal, they said how do you say? He was shot in the head, he was shot, and then he was shot. He was shot and then he was shot. He was shot and then he was shot. He was shot and then he was shot. He was shot and then he was shot.
Speaker 1:He was shot, and then he was shot he was shot and then he was shot.
Speaker 2:He was shot and then he was shot. He was shot and then he was shot. He was shot and then he was shot. He was shot and then he was shot. And they were riding bikes. Who saved the one who didn't die. So the evidence is that this is the devilish influence that God has given us to be able to do good, to kill us, and in the midst of all this, it's the same people and I've talked about this in history.
Speaker 1:it's been on television. But the current life, people pay for guidance or pay for enough guidance in the family, in the society as a whole. It's like a family that has a tendency to be too busy in their activities or for reasons that make them you to resign from your parents' role, and that someone else joined you right there, even in prison, and that you always say I'm not going to talk to you, I'm going to join you right there, even if it's not your father in jail for a major part, and then the mother you go out. It's the same thing that has changed your life and that has really paid off. And I myself approach it as I always have, and I always say to everyone who has supported me that the reality of life is complicated.
Speaker 1:It can happen that someone gets married and the husband doesn't work out, or you're in a relationship with someone. For a reason or another, the relationship doesn't work out. But because the relationship doesn't work out between you and your little father, think about it no girl can replace your little father at any time. Your little father can replace her father at any time.
Speaker 1:The father can replace his daughter at any time, but the daughter doesn't have the privilege, she doesn't have the privilege to change her mother, to change her father. So, whatever happens in our lives that makes us not walk, think that we have a good relationship and we both, even at a distance, are supposed to be active and present 24 hours a day. That's right.
Speaker 2:And another thing that is important is that we have to be friends with each other, because sometimes we are more parents than friends, and if we are not friends, we have to find friends.
Speaker 2:Friends at what level are they at? Yes, that's it. When we say they are, it doesn't mean they are not good enough, but of course, they are able to correct things, because they always need some correction to be able to correct things. I think that the class we have for young people who are 12, 13, 14 years old, especially 14 years old, we have to ask ourselves this question If, for example, there is a situation that has evolved in us and we need people to talk about it, who are the people who are willing to talk about it? Who are the people who are willing to talk about it? The council will say well, I am one of them. I am one of them. I am one of them. I am one of that. They are friends. They are friends.
Speaker 2:I asked myself the question but for whom is that? Is it for mom or is it for dad? No, it's not for Gabriel, it's not for Aldi, because it means that they are apart, mom with dad, with Timon. They don't present themselves as friends Because sometimes and that's what we tell people when someone wants to educate, at least you have to find a day to chat on the same table, to eat together, and that's when a question is asked and that's when you can give a friendly testimony, when you can tell people your friends. We can chat, we can talk about a whole series of things, even if we can't share everything, but we can trust each other. We can trust each other and we can see the situation evolve. We can see the change. So it's important to create a platform so that everyone can feel the comfort of having a strong trust.
Speaker 1:Yes, that's right platform. The way that Timuna felt they joined with confidence.
Speaker 2:With confidence.
Speaker 1:I agree with Poyen, what you said about Zami and Timuna. I don't want to confuse you. Zami is there to cause everyone to understand that. No, I don't want to leave my parents to see Zami. I don't want to force Zami to come to Zambia. I have to go to Zambia to create an environment of comfort where I can trust myself, where I can deliver a series of things that I can take good direction. That's right, zambi Pititou, to say it or not, in an intimate relationship you have to, not the same. You understand. In their intimate relationship, they are forced to share the same thing. The children are not the same. The same program. The children are the same. It's the same program. The children are not the same. If you have someone who wants to cheat, you take it. The children cheat to make money together with you, but it depends on you. Every child has a different age. They have a different age from 0 to 10 years old. As parents, they are working.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:They are left-leaning, they are right-leaning, they are left-leaning, they are left-leaning, they are left-leaning, they are left-leaning. I said why? Why?
Speaker 2:Why.
Speaker 1:Because I said so, but from 10 years old to 15 years old, 17 years old, kunyala is an advisor.
Speaker 1:He is an advisor Because from 0 to 10 years old, even when we go back to the store, we buy a lot of things. We buy a lot of things. But even Kunyala, 10-12 years old, we start to get emotional. We get the feeling. We get the feeling Even when we are there. I don't have to buy it to be able to buy it again. When I go to the store with my children, they choose. Even at the end of the day they have to make a decision. Because they have to make a decision, if they are not appropriate for their age, they can be redirected in the other direction to look for an item that is appropriate for their age. But all of this requires a good relationship. I say that A good relationship, but with limits. With limits, that's right.
Speaker 2:You understand.
Speaker 1:Because all these good relationships, you have to create limits. You have to be good, as we say. You have to be able to be comfortable, comfortable to talk to each other. I always take that as an example. I remember when I was in high school and my aunt and I were invited to go to the UFLAN in Fojac. The first thing I said to them was I don't have to do that for my mom. My mom made me confident and that always marked me. I always as if no one had the opportunity to take it as an example. I always take it as an example. I tell them Mom, trust her. It means that you have good relationships with your mother, that your mother is with you, that you are with her, that you are with the Chita to talk to your mother. And that's when you say that it takes time, even if it's once a week, to chat, to talk, because they don't take time to chat with you.
Speaker 2:They don't do it like that you understand.
Speaker 1:They are always with an iron arm so that you don't show any reflexivity. That's why they, without being distant. That's right. You understand, because you know, as a boss, you don't leave space to make mistakes. You can't leave space to make mistakes, but when you make mistakes, you have to create space to help correct mistakes and to help correct mistakes. That's what I'mapalavel is, chitapalavel.
Speaker 2:Chitapalavel. That's really very, very important, because if you don't have enough space to help Chitapalavel, you have to find someone else and someone else to tell him that's what you did wrong. There are practical theories.
Speaker 2:I would like to say that we can be followers, we can be leaders, Because if we are followers, we follow others. We lead others on the path we are on, but we are leaders. We can lead others on the path we are on. I was able to show them that I was a good person, that I respected my parents, that I was a good person and that I was a good person, but I didn't show them that.
Speaker 1:I was very important.
Speaker 1:While I was talking about that, I had an experience in the church and my father was a pastor in the church. I went to church as a service and then it was like that, during my childhood I was born and then I was a little girl, a very little girl, and then when I was in my early childhood, I went to my uncle's house and then during my childhood it was like that we came back there and then, as we were developing our relationship, we started to know each other who are old, who are in school, who are in grade school and all that. And then they tell me that someone is 11 years old, someone is 12 years old in the same year, and then they ask me do you do construction work or do you do housework, and all that? And on the other side they tell me but who is the father? And then they ask me about the housework. And then I tell them that we don't have to do the.
Speaker 1:We were discussing the housework. She told me that we were going to have to renew the house. We were going to have to talk to the mother and the father was so happy. He was like hey, you're the mother. I said hey, you're the mother, you're going to have to go to the third house. Jesus, the mother was so a good person. She didn't know me Even as a stranger. I was the first person she met in church. I thought I had created an environment to talk to her.
Speaker 2:She said a lot of things.
Speaker 1:She said a lot of things, but she said it with permission. I said, mom, I have to go to the police. I didn't want to violate the trust that I have in my family, that I have in my family, that I owe them, but I didn't want to be in the front line to reveal my direction, to pretend that I didn't know. I said I have to go find my mother. I didn't tell my mother everything. I told her because I wanted go find your mother. I didn't tell her everything.
Speaker 1:I told her everything Because I wanted to leave her to tell her. But I told her I'm happy to know that you didn't go. And I told her I have a lot of words to tell her and if you still believe that you have my presence, I'll call you and say where are they. And I didn't need to tell them how the story went. But it was really a moment that I missed and was troubled in some way. It's like the parents of their children are in prison. It's like our children are there with all the things our children know.
Speaker 2:Yes, that's very important. And while I'm saying that, the parents of the children, they have to work with someone else. Sometimes we can't even count the people we have met before we even met. For example, I met a man with a girl before we got married. We have to count the people we have met before we even met. Who do we have to talk to? Who do we have to talk to? Who do we have to talk to? Who are you talking to? Who are you creating with your son or daughter? Who are you creating with? You are creating a family, but what is the meaning of it?
Speaker 2:There are a whole series of questions that people ask themselves before they engage in the relationship that they have with people. This is very important because sometimes the foundation has all these, even marriages, have so many people who do everything wrong. It's very important because sometimes the foundation, even marriage, has hurt people so much that they lose balance. Mom and dad Because it's balance.
Speaker 2:When you have a mom and a dad to keep balance, it creates an impact on people, but when you live, it's her father's only life, it's all there. So Timuna is not able to balance it and her only parent is coming to make efforts to help her to prove to Timuna that she is able to fulfill two functions in the life of the person. And it is excess that makes the person come to live for himself or herself because there is a mother only in Dakar or a father only in Dakar. So that's why we have to, when we meet the marriage, we have to really take into account whether it is a person who is able to live or whether it is a pastime or whatever we can do to fund them.
Speaker 1:There are also important things that people can do to get into marriage, but there are some things that we have noticed that we have not lived in society, where people take their freedom to make children whatever they want. Sometimes it's people, people you end up with in all relationships sleeping together with each other. It's the question you ask yourself before you sleep with them, it's after you end up sleeping with them and then you finally get up and then suddenly, it's the question you ask yourself Because sometimes, jackaian, it's not because a guy has a relationship with a girl that he wants to be with her. All of that is important, you understand, because we don't have to be like that. It's true that we have freedom, we have to love, but we don't have to assume that we have freedom to protect this world in any way.
Speaker 2:In any way. Yes, it's very important. We have to look at this world in a different way than we have done before, and it's in a way of freedom that we know that those who have this freedom can do anything, since they are not just models. They are able to do anything, they are able to prove their skills and their qualities. That's why we have T-MUN and we have education.
Speaker 1:Yes, because T-MUN is a big package of things that we can't get anywhere else and that they are able to join us to transmit it. And there is something that is very important when I talk about emotional support, and the family is important, I will say it very quickly for you. I say family is an emotional support that reduces stress, psychological depression and feelings of despair. That's what family is, and I continue to say an environment that is like a family support, an environment that supports families, parents and their children and encourages clean rules that can reduce a whole series of problems that children can encounter in society and at the social level. We know that families play an important role in forming a moral valley, a testimony and a social convention through all forms of socialization that they have created. And then families transmit a cultural valley, growth and tradition from one generation and the next, and that's really important.
Speaker 1:And we can do that. We don't have to do things like we do here and at the same time, who has a family with Madame Akpiti? We can do things that transmit the testimony. That's what we take from your family and you look at the little things that people have, you see a lot of things that your little ones have. It's through that that you can pass on. So it's a series of values that are important. That families can transmit to their children is important, but nowadays we see that there is a was little. The responsibility that he was supposed to have as a mother, as a father. It's like the responsibility that he didn't want to attach to him because he didn't want to be lost for his freedom, for his freedom, or not just as a mother for his father, and then to talk to him about his freedom.
Speaker 1:That's right freedom, you understand, because their little body that we have there lives. Everything is made of concentrated, or at least concentrated around this world.