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I am Dr. Marie Beatrice Hyppolite. I hold a doctorate in Health Science with emphasis on Global Health and master’s degree in social work. I have over 14 years of experience in the field of health and human services.
This podcast is primarily focused on mental health and the quality-of-life elements that affect it such as divorce, death, domestic violence, trauma, toxic relationships, and single parenthood to name a few. It is no secret that mental health challenges continue to profoundly impact modern society although not enough discussion is given due to stigma. Research has shown an increase of 25 % in mental health crises after COVID-19. It is important to have honest, uncomfortable conversations about mental health while being supportive. Although we are interdependent, change begins with the individual, hence “your world.”
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Navigating Character Incompatibility in Marriage
What happens when two people who love each other discover they're fundamentally incompatible? This question lies at the heart of countless relationship struggles, yet few address it head-on until it's too late.
In this enlightening conversation, Dr. Beatrice welcomes Pastor Jean-Ducarmel Brevil to tackle the taboo subject of character incompatibility in marriage. With candor and wisdom drawn from years of counseling couples, Pastor Breville unpacks how differences in social preferences, educational backgrounds, and financial priorities can create seemingly insurmountable barriers between partners.
The discussion reveals why dating serves as a critical period for identifying potential incompatibilities – a time when small disagreements over coffee preferences or social media habits might signal deeper issues. Pastor Brevil shares compelling real-life examples, including couples who discovered their incompatibility only after marriage, and the painful consequences that followed.
Most powerfully, this episode challenges common misconceptions about love and compatibility. As Pastor Brevil explains, "Love is not manifested by symbols. It is manifested by action." Listeners will gain practical insights for addressing incompatibility, whether they're single, dating, or already married and struggling with differences that feel irreconcilable.
From navigating educational disparities and financial expectations to handling age gaps and social differences, this conversation provides a roadmap for transforming potential relationship deal-breakers into opportunities for deeper connection. If you've ever wondered why relationships that begin with passion often end in frustration, or if you're currently facing compatibility challenges with your partner, this episode offers both hope and practical guidance for building a relationship that thrives despite differences.
Listen now and discover how addressing character incompatibility early and honestly can save your relationship from becoming another statistic. Share your thoughts and experiences with us – we'd love to hear how these insights impact your relationship journey.
Hello everyone. I'm Dr Beatrice Hippolyte, who came to us to embrace the idea, but today we have a very special show and with a special guest. Today we have the privilege of welcoming in the studio Pastor Jean-Ducarmel Breville. Pastor Breville, good evening.
Speaker 2:Good evening, dr Beatrice, and good evening to all the friends and friends who have watched this show. It's a pleasure to be in the studio with you today.
Speaker 1:It's been a long time since I've had the idea to make a show about the incomp that you earned from your marriage, but I want to give you an opportunity to join us, to avoid the work that you have to do, the money that you have to spend, all the auditors who are waiting or who are watching this program to make you happy. This is an opportunity that I have gained. I am lucky to to participate in a retreat and find that one of the speakers was Pastor Breville. Ah no, to tell you the truth, he was a real jackal. Without losing too much time, I passed through Pastor Breville to really understand the reason for the incompatibility that exists in marriage who is the partner, how do we address it? What impact, what are the consequences? And then I thought that there was a positive aspect to Pastor Breville.
Speaker 2:So when we had the opportunity to talk to you about the subject that has something to do with character incompatibility, we said that we had to take advantage of the opportunity to make of character within the marriage. There is a problem that has been raised by our great, great great parents for a long time which is not solved. They have come to us with a taboo subject because not everyone wants to have this incompatibility of character and we believe that in the future they will find a way for everyone to see that the subject of this taboo is no more taboo than that that no one is able to understand. It is enough that the women understand that there is incompatibility and young people who can marry the subject of this will be useful Very, very well, because we will see incompatibility before, during and after in a relationship, but especially a relationship that has a relationship with marriage.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay so that's all we can hear so that we can, and the J dossier. We are here to help you and help you to get out of this situation. I think this is a good thing for you and your family.
Speaker 1:I am already very happy to see that everyone's causes that they share with us.
Speaker 2:So first of all, one of the things that Dr Bayat-Christina is asking about the incompatibility is that, first of all, there are people who don't understand us very well. We have to find a language that everyone can understand, without even using scientific language. Incompatibility is what makes us walk together, between two things that make us walk together and then not much that can make them walk together. And that's why we talk about incompatibility, the two incompatible things. Not many people can see them together. When we see a spiritual aspect that has a relationship with faith, then we can see it working. But if we take it in a scientific way, we will see that there are three things that can be done to make two things incompatible become compatible. So, in relation to Is it true?
Speaker 2:that we need to make personal effort, but it is only if you believe that people realize that they gain either as concubines, as husband and wife, or as a housewife, or as a daughter-in-law.
Speaker 2:It's not everyone who knows that they are compatible, because I always thought that over time, people who came to me in a relationship, people who came to me when, who came to the marriage and so on, who came to the marriage and so on, who came to the marriage and so on, who came to the marriage and so on, who came to the marriage and so on, who came to the marriage and so on, who came to the marriage and so on, who came to the marriage and so on, who came to the marriage and so on, who came to the marriage and so on, who it's because there is an incompatibility problem. There is no one to identify them, since when a boy or a girl has a problem with another, they don't have to deal with it. That's why the movement of being that we talked about in the 21st century, which is more fashionable, has replaced it, because it allows us to identify the incompatibility that exists between them.
Speaker 1:But we are talking about a dating movement. We are talking about dating movements where people go as if they had chosen to live together after 3-4 months, or at least dating, because even in our relationship people have been dating. People have been dating for 1 year, 2 years, three years, even before we get married.
Speaker 2:We take this with a lot of respect, dr Beatrice, because in the period when we remarry, we are not even related. We are not even related, it's true, because the interest we have with the world is not only with our husband and her or marry her, but the goal is to know if I want to marry her or not. Is she a partner for me to marry her? We can take two steps to follow. We can be a husband, a wife, or a husband and wife. The advantage of being a husband is that when you are with someone, you know exactly what kind of person they are.
Speaker 1:So you know if they are loved.
Speaker 2:Yes, if they are loved, okay. So it's not that you are sitting under a bush that could fall into impudicity. So we can use biblical themes anyway. It's not a type of debt, because since we have debt, we have to put it on the table. We don't want to talk about it. We want to talk about what is more classic, what is more modern or what is more respectful.
Speaker 2:So, for example, dr Beatrice, a boy invites a girl to go on a date. That is to start with her incompatibility. And then on that date, the boy said that the girl he was no. The girl said no. The boy said tea. The boy said the girl said coffee. The boy said the girl said the girl said coffee. And the girl said the boy said coffee. I told you it's the little, but I don't know what he did. I don't know if it's the same thing that happens all the time in the world.
Speaker 2:And then the discussion started and the boy himself he got up and ran away. He was very excited. He said well, I'm going to go. It was his action that happened. We'll talk about reactions later. In the reactions we talked about the fact that the boy came to my daughter. His name is David Hildet. He came to me to apologize because he was acting like that, etc. Etc. And then the girl herself came to him to apologize to him that the boy was in the bar. He came to me, he came to marry me, but they got married while the girl was sitting at the table with the boy.
Speaker 2:The girl was drinking coffee and the boy said Pablo, you're not going to let me go to bed with you. I don't want to drink that coffee. Discussion broken. They put him in the cell because you have incompatibility.
Speaker 1:So you have to make sure that you are able to connect, that you don't have people to address.
Speaker 2:Very well, you have to be addressed Since our second date. When a boy says to you darling, excuse me, because I reacted like that. After the excuse you have to say, yes, I apologize, but who is going to treat me like that? Because I am, because you don't want to hurt them. So that's what happens in a relationship. You take a small detail and then you see a lot of people who are miserable because there is a constant discussion about their relationship.
Speaker 1:I would like to take an example from the past. A couple met and said that their daughter met a man who was married to a woman, who was married to a man who was married to a woman. And then they come to marry and then the life plan changes. And then when we go there we have tensions. I know myself, I don't want to go out, I don't want to enjoy it, I don't want to go out. And then when we go there, some people say well, you don't want to go out, you're doing bad things. I take it that way. Anyway, it's a big agreement with us. As if the problem is that from the beginning there are no people who consider you, no one to address you, or at least no one to treat you.
Speaker 2:Any incompatibility that arises between a relationship which is not treated and for which the relationship is broken it is a man who is unhappy or a relationship in general. It is not a relationship that is futile because there is suffering in it, because the primary goal for whatever relationship there is with the world, we have to find a better life, we have to find a life that is happy, while if we have a series of little things, dr Beatrice, which we have been dealing with since the beginning, we have not been dealing with it. So she tells us that if that's is why the problem is so big in the relationship, whether it is a relationship with a spouse or with someone else, we are not in a relationship anymore.
Speaker 1:Or we see people who say, well, we need to get married. We hear the expression, we get out, we take the bag and then we will solve the problem that we have.
Speaker 2:False movement.
Speaker 1:Yes, practically.
Speaker 2:False movement because you have to put a bag in your hand and then at some point you have to take the bag and throw it away. But maybe society doesn't want you to throw it away, maybe religion doesn't want you to throw it away.
Speaker 1:And you make all of you unhappy.
Speaker 2:Definitely. We met together with several couples who fell in love. So it's important to talk about their incompatibility in their relationship. So it's important to talk about their incompatibility in their relationship, their incompatibility from an educational point of view or from a spiritual point of view. There are two important things that are incompatible it is financial incompatibility and sexual incompatibility was born under a lot of divorces and sexual incompatibility has come down to a lot of diseases in women.
Speaker 1:Because of infidelity.
Speaker 2:Not only because of infidelity. We'll start with that later. It's because the girl doesn't like it, and the boy doesn't like it either, madam. And then there's the excess that comes to a series of diseases.
Speaker 2:And that means that, above all, they fall into infidelity which has to do with porn, it means sexual infidelity. And then they come to realize that they are going to have concubines and then, sooner or later, they will fall into the same genre because there is sexual incompatibility that occurs in the relationship. So when there is incompatibility, it is necessary that we can have it.
Speaker 1:Okay, so we have to jump.
Speaker 2:So the first part we always like to talk about is incompatibility. We like to talk about social incompatibility. We take something simpler, for example. We are in the age of technology TikTok, instagram, facebook, youtube, snapchat, all that stuff and then in the relationship, and then he would go to bed, and then the boy would go to bed, or even if he didn't sleep, he would watch football on TV or NBA playoffs, and then he would watch these things on TikTok, instagram, it, she took a selfie, all that stuff, and then she didn't connect with the other. So we have to ask ourselves what is incompatibility in life, in a society where people live, everyone has something important to do, and that's why communication is the fundamental basis of any relationship. Indeed, that's why we say that if we talk to a series of people who already exist and then have a fertile discussion, they will always have the same incompatibility that they have with others. They just need to have someone who can submit together with them Exactly.
Speaker 2:So, from a social point of view, in the incompatibility movement we always have the same example. Example we are talking about Do boys like social media, Even girls like social media? Or do girls like sports activities, Even boys like sports activities? These are series of things that can be treated in advance and that's why I'm explaining to you the objective of being there, Because being there, if you are with someone, you don't put the charm of the pleasure of the mouth in your head, you don't put it as something that can be taken away.
Speaker 2:It's easy to get to understand people very well, Because do people even reme dance? Does the other person not reme dance? Do people even reme dance in the ball? Does it not reme dance in the ball? Do people reme dance in the night, in the morning, in the activities of all time? Does he himself not agree? So when you do not treat first and then we use the expression of debate earlier, it is Baglak important for us, Baglak has finally, and then, where suffering is with it, they can withdraw the bagla. As I said earlier, the people who are not allowed to withdraw. The religion is not allowed to withdraw, and then society is not allowed to withdraw, because the people who are not allowed to withdraw are not treated properly.
Speaker 1:Yes, because if you pay attention to that to consider yourself and address yourself and people who are supposed to, you can avoid the bagla. That means from a social point of view, and address them and people who are supposed to avoid violence.
Speaker 2:It means that, from a social point of view, when you talk to people, you have to say that, from a social point of view, what you are trying to do is to show them what you are doing. It's not just saying it out loud, but it's trying to live it as a reality and I'm talking about sexual activity, far from it.
Speaker 1:And then we say it as if it's practically discussing it together.
Speaker 2:Discussing it and then living it together. For example, if you like pleasure we always talk about pleasure or to go to the movies with your friends to see if they like movies. Or if you go to the lounge to watch music or to dance with your friends to see if they are social people.
Speaker 1:It all depends on the season, the country you are in or the sea.
Speaker 2:Exactly you have to go to the sea with us Is that we are people who can marry you when you get married, when you have a wife or when you have a husband. So you have to pay attention to that. And then, when you get married, it's their turn to say I invite you to do this, etc. And then the bride says I don't know what to do. And then the husband says, well, if you don't want to go, I'll go. There are many problems sometimes that the bride doesn't want to go out, or the bride doesn't want to go out. So, my dear, where are you going? Or we can say, my dear, where are you going, but it's not in discussion. It's not because I don't want to go that I have to go, but it's because I don't want to go or I don't feel like going, where can I go?
Speaker 1:We don't have the disposition to do that Exactly we don't have the confidence.
Speaker 2:So, from a social point of view, we have to know that the so where is the social school for the people of the country? For example, the fact that we do diplomacy? I'll tell you that we do diplomacy and we can work in the embassy and the embassy members invite us to tea. They invite us to activities like that, and the reason why they invite us to that is it's not easy to say that you have to come with me. You have to come with me because the space is a have to move forward. We have to be able to pass through this because for a long time we knew that I was doing diplomacy, I was in the diplomatic field, so there was a side that invited me or that I had to go through.
Speaker 1:But you have to have confidence, but you have to be able to talk about it before.
Speaker 2:Definitely, and when you are able to talk about it to them before Definitely, and when they are able to talk about it to you before you have to be able to agree with them, you can do it.
Speaker 1:But not only in my town. Here it's like we're together, we're engaged Because we have people we meet, and during this time we go to school. Here. It's between us that we understand that diplomacy is a field that we are committed to, and it's between us that that we come into the profession.
Speaker 2:It's easier now. It's easier because we know what we want. We don't agree on the fact that we can't do it. For example, when I was at NDC, I had a weekend of motivation and orientation in diplomacy I had to do three days away from Calico. So I was very angry because since the first three weekends three days that he was away from Calico I was not in agreement. The society didn't like it because I was not there three days away with my classmates, with my teacher, with Victor.
Speaker 2:So I was like, if he's married, he won't change. It means that I have a business trip and you say, no, you're not going to be married, you're going to be married, you're going to be married, you're going to be married. You can even say that you're going to be married. When you're on the weekend, when you're going to go to the movies, you say, darling, I'm going to be with you on the weekend, I'm going to be with you on the weekend. If you are always angry, if you are jealous, if you don't have a girlfriend or a boyfriend, if you are always angry, if you are always angry, you can go to the police station and leave.
Speaker 1:That's right. You take the next question. Do I have to suffer because people in the same place have a space that is not comfortable?
Speaker 2:Yes, that's a lot of love. A lot of love, yes, exactly A lot of love. But if you want to get married, you have to address it in another way. There is a big authority on that part. So that's the problem. If you have two wives and you have to treat them the same way, and then the one who gets married, there is a lot of misunderstanding. If I tell you that you are not in agreement with our program because you have various reasons, you will say no, it's not true. Even if you agree without consent, we will say no, it's disobedience. There is no submission.
Speaker 1:It's valid for both parties.
Speaker 2:Yes, and that makes me say, if I say, I don't agree if you don't agree, it's reciprocal.
Speaker 1:I'm glad you added that because, once, once again, the mentality is that we always have to understand that the imbalance is like a man who weighs more weight, and that there is a series of sacrifices, there is a series of commitments, as if what a woman has done that society has sometimes shown that it is, are not the ones who saved them.
Speaker 2:So, Guillaume, the truth is that. The reality is that these guys are the ones who are able to do what they want to do. They are able to do what they want to do.
Speaker 1:Yes, in terms of infidelity, we know that society has these four white men who's white card? Which is bad? It's very bad you understand Because whatever the relationship is, suppose we respect one another.
Speaker 2:But we call upon reality between a boy who has several daughters with a girl who has several boys.
Speaker 1:Oh, boys are mature for society, but for girls themselves forget about it.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't say more than that. That's why, even when you don't learn in the Bible or there are several men in the Bible who have gained 999 girls, who have gained a thousand girls, they approached.
Speaker 2:David Solomon and people said they had gained, but they said that they had another girl who had slept with another man and the girls had manipulated their lives. So when we turn to what we just talked about, it means that social incompatibility is the prelude to which profession is the girl, which profession is the boy, who is the one who is in charge, who is the one who surrounds him. So in advance we have to treat them In the opposite case the husband must have a good reaction to not despair and the same daughter-in-law to have a good reaction to not despair. So it has to be able to treat the incompatibility itself. But if we are already married, as we said earlier, it we have to establish this communication and it's communication to communicate. It's communication to communicate and rather to explain to us who is married, who is married, who is married.
Speaker 2:For example, I must take an example between myself and my current relationship with my wife. I thought that I would be able to do this in the free market because I had a discussion with them. I was very happy to be a maestro, an artist, a popular man, a man of the people. So if I had a passion like that, I would have. A husband or a wife is not a traitor to the people.
Speaker 1:It's a big deal and a lot of people, a lot of faith, are doing that.
Speaker 2:Yes, that's what it is. That's why I came to see you, to see your faithfulness. I think you're doing a good job and when I grew up, when I became a pastor in the church, when I became a man of the people, that's when we heard the name of a man of the people. So we hear the name to be decanted and Pastor Breville and for Breville and Breville. Pastor Breville for the church and for Breville for Kaila.
Speaker 2:Breville is for everyone who is a classmate everyone who is a student in school in the neighborhood who is not able to complete their work.
Speaker 1:They say I don't see my dad, my aunt, etc.
Speaker 2:Exactly because they can't take them out. So if they don't treat you well before marriage, they can fall in there. They can have a big problem. They can have a big problem. On the other hand, if they can socialize, the best thing they can do to manage socialization is that people who are not we see it as a consequence, as a result for people who gain social incompatibility when they want to leave, they have to go back to their own society. They have to leave.
Speaker 1:But it's the same time that the father wants to embrace it.
Speaker 2:He wants to embrace it.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:This approach is what we are talking about. With this approach, we are talking about educational incompatibility. We are facing a problem that makes us not be socially connected. I hope we will not fail together.
Speaker 1:No, it's education that has to do it.
Speaker 2:Because, at the level of education we are, that's where people don't learn, people who are suffering because they know that they are in trouble. So let me give you a few words for that you can explain all that existed. If it's in a spiritual sector which is based on Christianity, does not end with prayer, because it is based on a method for the soul, because there is an evangelist who preached and then he says fish, not. You want to fly in the air. If you want to welcome them, you have to be in the water, but you can't be stuck with the birds Until both of them are forced to separate for each person to live.
Speaker 1:It doesn't happen.
Speaker 2:It means that if you want to treat with the treatment, I have to divorce. I myself, in my faith, within my church, I don't preach much. Divorce is something that we do in prenuptial counseling. But I have chosen to go to the Holy Mary, to all the pastors, to the Holy Mary, to go to counseling, because counseling is the best, even before we drink it.
Speaker 1:I remember when Pastor Bueville said that. I remember that the high priest said that, but there are some people who were there on Sunday during the Mass and they were preaching and then he said well, look, mary, you have to teach me how to look for my own way. Because, look, I'm here today because I want to share with you this problem that is happening in the world, and I want to say that we must not be afraid. We understand that the level of education we have gained, the advice we have received, we have to be able to read it. The level we have gained, we have to be able to see it. In the group we are attending the. I told her that I was going to present her with a problem. I told her that I was going to sell her.
Speaker 2:Her husband is free.
Speaker 1:You understand, and I felt that she was the one who was not able to accompany her because she was embarrassed.
Speaker 2:Because she was not able to enter the house.
Speaker 1:She was not able to enter the house. But people in the same place they do that. There are conversations that they can't enter. So on both sides we have to understand that. But unfortunately it's not easy for both sides to understand that. People say that love is love. I recently saw on social media that there are people who say that marriage is not supposed to involve love 100%, so I don't say how much, but they say that love is not supposed to be based on love to marry, because there is another aspect that is needed to consider that sometimes we don't consider and it's there that we end up marrying and then we want to consider that aspect.
Speaker 2:I don't know what to say, because aspect doesn't mean anything. I think I should pray instead what I want to pray for. Because people say that? Because they don't understand love, because love? Sometimes we understand love when we say I love you or I love you or I love you, far from it. We must first know the definition of the word love In the Bible. The Apostle Paul explains this in Exodus, chapter 13, that love is not difficult. The Apostle Paul says that love is patient, love supports everything. Love is not a threat, love is not proud. He believes in everything.
Speaker 1:He hopes for everything.
Speaker 2:So I always say this to my children and my church when someone says I love you to you, you should ask that person do you really know what does that mean love? Because sometimes people say that they love me yes, it's true, they love me and others say, dr Beatrice, you know, I love you there. The other thing he says with tenderness, with affection, in other words, he say they read words in knowledge of the cause, but most often they say I love you. They say it with a tick. We say that all the time. In some conferences we do. My name has to be written with I love you. It's I L instead of putting I U I love you. I love you means I love you. I love you means I love you is I-L-O-V-E-Y-O-U.
Speaker 2:We don't have any symbols in love. Love is not manifested by symbols. It is manifested by action. So if we don't understand the meaning of love, it is normal to say that nowadays, relationships have to be put aside for love. It's not because we made love, but because people have to talk about it themselves. They need love in everything. So we left that aside.
Speaker 2:We went to another topic which is age-related, to talk about love and other things. We continue with the incompatibilities of character. And then we have incompatibilities in the educational field, which is the marriage education, together with social. I like to take a series of examples because there are a series of experiences that I gained because I didn't go to the hospital, because I didn't work when I entered here for a period of time, I was chosen to do security guard, 8 hours, 16 hours. Security guard that means basic.
Speaker 2:So when I talk about the decisions I make, I take it for security and then, because I can't do it myself, if someone does security, tell me sorry, I will come back with security guards Because I can do anything if I need it. I can call security guards or criminal justice or go to Homeland Security or go to the security department. Even for the president it's always the same security. He always has to be in that class. But that's what Dr Beatrice said People factor age into the relationship. To get married, to get married, to get married. The more time you spend at school to get a degree in your own, if you don't get married or don't have a daughter, the less chance you have to get at school to get a degree, whether it's for boys or girls, the less chance you have of getting a degree to become a lady.
Speaker 2:Please repeat that for me again, please, the more time you spend at school to get a degree, to get a bachelor's degree, master's degree, doctor's degree, or even to become a boy, or even to become a lady, the less chance you have of have a boy or a girl. Why? Good question, because in the time you have to prepare yourself to go to all levels, the person you are going to have is already going to have someone. So what I want to say is that I said it before educational and social incompatibility is what I want to say.
Speaker 1:I hope you will pay attention to it and I hope that your friends and listeners will pay attention to it.
Speaker 2:Yes, we hope so too, because I don't know, because I don't able to take it, because I was in a bad situation. But then people, you are supposed to have a job, a job, a little love, a partner. But after 24 years, later, you are supposed to start to have ideas in your head. If people start at 22 years old, it does not pose a problem. They can stop at 22 years old. It won't be a problem. They won't stop. But at 22 years old, if you come to school, maybe you'll end up with a bachelor's degree. You do a bachelor's degree, you do a master's degree. You don't have to go to school. You don't need people who are on the same level as us. Do these people already have the ability to find people? Do these people already have the ability to find people in the city? And that's why, dr Beatrice degree, master's degree, doctorate yes, yes, you have to charge everything to join. You don't think you won't join, do you? You have to be prepared.
Speaker 1:Yes, because when you go to a standard school, you have to be prepared.
Speaker 2:And when you go to another school, you able to go down to the next level. If you don't have a good level of education, will you still have a boy who will never be able to go to the next level? Do you mean a boy who is 28, 30, 32 years old?
Speaker 1:Never it will not be possible. And the other level of education is not only about education, it's about financial life.
Speaker 2:No, we don't want to talk about that. Financial life no I am not talking about financial life with sex, and that's not my problem, no, so to answer your question no, I don't want to ask you a problem. When we arrive in this. We have a dream that we have, because when you say that, I just want to say that I want to keep this for ourselves the important thing to prepare for the future with the people in our hands, instead of preparing the future for the people who are in it, is to prepare ourselves.
Speaker 1:Because choice is not easy.
Speaker 2:It's not easy. So when we say that we will be resilient, when we use the word resilient, when you use the word resume, I know exactly what you're saying.
Speaker 2:When you arrive, you talk about the film. You end up saying when you're not in the right place, you have to look down To see if you can learn. When you're in the right place to learn, you have to have a problem. Can you go up with? You are all the same. If you are a blooper, you can take a bar and go up and say that you are very nice. But you have to see that people who speak to you are bad people. They speak to you like a manipulator.
Speaker 2:It's the same for girls too Many's the same for girls too, because girls often have a bad reputation. It's at this level. It's a statistical proof. Yes, it's a statistical proof, because Because girls are not trained in this field.
Speaker 1:The world movement is doing this?
Speaker 2:Who makes girls train boys? They don't need boys to be paid for it. They don't need boys to be paid for it. They are independent, but they are independent. They don't want to be like me and have to buy a boy.
Speaker 1:Which is not easy.
Speaker 2:no, it's not easy for people to take the teacher's advice. They are profitors. Or if they are not profitors, they can come to the manipulator. They can take the stepfather's advice, because it's not enough.
Speaker 1:It's like the end of the day, as if the parents freeze to death for the same thing they did.
Speaker 2:But the husband and wife are the same. Because that's why we talk about education with society, because education allows us to adjust ourselves in society. So that's why we say if someone has been looking for someone since they were in college, they started to find us. Not only that, they have two degrees, three degrees in the world. If they have to find, if they have to find, they always have to join and that means that they use K. They always have to join or supposedly join. But it is not easy because there are more than 100 to 200 people like you who are looking for the same thing. But when you have done your bachelor's degree for two years now, you are always talking to people like sir. You are always talking to people like miss. For those who are coming with security.
Speaker 2:Dr Beatrice, I did it, or I took it all the time. I went to school. I went to school. I went to school, I got a Master's degree. I got a Master's degree and then, in a good time, I found someone who was able to help me in a security guard. I want to be a security guard in society because I have experience in security. So, even though I have a bachelor's degree in diplomacy. I want to be a security guard. I want to go to Haiti. I want to go to the city and the fact that I'm going to Haiti I'm going to Haiti, I'm looking for something that allows me.
Speaker 1:I don't want to show that I can't go to Haiti all the no, but I don't want to leave people with courage, with dignity, with respect, because when you say that you have to lower your degree to be a security officer, I do the same thing in the morning when I lower my degree, so I know exactly what you're talking about.
Speaker 2:Let's go faster. I don't think that I'm a security officer. I'm going to say that for everyone who wants security. I'm not minimizing it, but the reality of life is the reality of the period. People who have a doctorate or who have a master's in mental health are not compatible with the security of the period. Educational incompatibility, social incompatibility, because if you invite a man to dinner, to go to the wedding or to go out with a lady, who will make you enter the conversation, because the person will present to we present to Mrs me such and such thing, or we present Dr one such and such, or we present one such and such, one such and such, and that makes us a good example to go to the fish or the park and that they were brought out in the country because they had a good education.
Speaker 1:For example, I was brought out in the country because I had a good education, because I had a job, and then, when I came here, I was told that I had to do this or that. But I was a person with a good education, but I didn't have an education in a country where I live. But I educate myself in other things, as if to To be able to educate myself on a plan that is enlightened and then, socially, to have a long series of sides, to know how to speak, how to walk, how to present myself, how to sit at the table. And if people have done all that, is it a problem?
Speaker 2:No, it's not a problem. Education we're not talking about education in the United. States oh okay, it's because, as I said, we're talking about financial issues. We're not even talking about that.
Speaker 2:Because the United States has no possibility. Many possibilities. Let's do three things. Let's talk about the financial, educational and social aspects. First, someone who has a PhD in psychology here, and then there are many possibilities for a psychology teacher in a high school or college A PhD. And then many people who have a heart attack. When they work in the hospital, they have a heart attack. They are associated with a heart attack. You don't have a heart attack, that's easier do you?
Speaker 2:No, because the line is the most difficult. Do you see the difference? Yes, it's the same for everyone who is a teacher at school, who has a master's degree and then works at school, etc. And then Mary makes a black car as a driver, a taxi driver.
Speaker 1:Mary made her a black car.
Speaker 2:Mary made her a black car Because she was a master. So that's another aspect of finance. Is finance more important than all the other needs in a relationship? Because at the end of the day, she will feel uncomfortable when they invite her somewhere to introduce her to her husband, because the feeling, the reality, is that she will introduce her husband as a taxi driver. She will miss him. Taxi driver is missing. There is a moral level, because I have a moral level that is completely high. I have a problem myself so that if I have to go to work, I have to go to work early, because every day is always useful in society.
Speaker 1:And they supposed to complete the other.
Speaker 2:That's it. It means that there is no problem to present it, but it does not show any problem. But society has a problem with it.
Speaker 1:They have always left us influenced by society, by society.
Speaker 2:They have always influenced by society until the world ends, because it's not me who is going to correct it. So if we have a very great education in Haiti and then we come here, we have to adjust as much as possible. But if there is no possibility, we have always been security guards. If it is not that I can't move forward. I will be a perfectionist so that I can come to a home-guard. When I was in school, I always entered the college for 2-3 years and then I entered NYPD. That means that the line has changed, but it is necessary to adjust it, to stop it at that level, because that level that you are gaining and that you are not gaining on your own, that level that you are gaining is the same. So that's what makes it so that when we talk about incompatibility, the reason we know incompatibility is because we have never treated it at the base. But if we treat it at the base, it will them as a base. As a base, ok, but if we treated them as a base, they wouldn't have come to us to ask us for help, because our problem is very particular.
Speaker 2:I grew up in education in Haiti. I came here, I did the research or I did security. I had to stay for a number of years because I knew people who were going to finish school. So we have an entourage with Dr Beatrice, because if we don't surround ourselves with people who go to school all the time, we won't be able to go to school. And that's why, without having to do anything, we have to make sure that it's ourselves who surround ourselves, because people from school encourage people from school. People from home encourage people from home. People who come to church encourage people to come to church. People who have a stable marriage they encourage people to have a stable marriage. So there are a series of languages. Many people don't know the language. For example, when we preach, we say learn from your friends. You must have good friends who are good for you. But the language needs to progress. If you don't progress, you don't need to be good, but we have to be good.
Speaker 1:Yes, we always have to greet them, we have to be kind to them, but the point you just made is very important. I thought I would share my experience with 11 friends. They said, oh, you're going to be a doctor. I said, no, I'm not going to be a doctor, even if I have the spirit.
Speaker 1:I came to the country in 2004, and that's when I met a young man who was in his last year of medical school. I thought that a young man, a good young man, educated, intelligent. The first question he asked me was I want to learn that I live in a country where I can plan my life for the next five years. And then I shared this with my friends, but the person who called me said no, it was a vision. If he didn't ask me that question, I would have stopped talking to him like friends, because he is honest, he is the last one to graduate from the medical school. I myself came to the country, so for him, I won't win If I have to go to the hospital, I will represent him. Do you understand? Did he invite me to a meeting in medicine? Did I get the caliber to camp in his place? And, the important thing, I suppose that it is I who should know that we vomited while waiting knows how to vomit in the meantime to make the place look good.
Speaker 1:That's really to illustrate that we can do it before, which is very important.
Speaker 2:So, to continue in the same way, we have to connect all three together. We connect the social, educational and financial lessons together. We say that we are in a relationship, and then there is someone else who has a business. And then there is someone else who has a business. There is someone who loves me so much, he will start my business too. I don't care, since I started. Everyone who loves me has started their business. Everyone who loves to spend money has started their business. Everyone who loves to dance. They are the ones who are born to be a father. The father watches who is born to be a mother and who is born to be a father.
Speaker 2:I was going to stop by and say, ah, beatrice, I went to the grocery store and bought this. I went to the grocery store and said, ah, I want to buy a burger. I bought this for you. I thought you would like a hot wings. I bought it for you.
Speaker 2:I didn't have time to run, because someone gets a gift. They don't have time to go out, because people who get gifts, it's the fact that they have gifts. It's when they go out together with people who are like them. You have to follow them. You have to talk to the people who get them, the people who love them. You have to follow them a long time and then they do it again. They do it again all the time to stay there all the time why? Because people have developed in the world. Do people take care of it afterwards? Because there are people who give gifts all the time to people but they don't give it back.
Speaker 2:If we are here, to be here, we have to go to the restaurant where we are going to eat. How we are going to eat. That's what Bill said. He didn't make any move to say we are going to eat here. He said no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Everything for fun. Deuxième tournée d'un restaurant.
Speaker 1:Troisième tournée d'un restaurant pour et qu'ils avaient fait depuis la commissaire ou était tout après cinq, après dix ans, prévient des carnes d'organisation mais, moniotou, y'a qu'on approche, que confère et pasteur breville et que, pour justifier action, yo yo dit mon qui t'invite et que tu fais invitation, c'est lui-même qui and the action you do. You say, the one who invited you, who made the invitation, is the same one who paid the bill.
Speaker 2:Well, that's why I have a lot of people in me who have invited me to find good words to tell me, let's say, that you invited a girl to come to your house. It's a shame. It's the only big word I've heard. That's simple. It's a shame that you invited a pity to look at your daughter and say I'm going to buy you a new car to make you come to the studio and everything. It's not parasitology.
Speaker 1:No, it's not a pity. It's my wife who's going to take care of my daughter.
Speaker 2:Well, there are other people who are concerned about you, or even your daughter, who is going to do the laundry for you, because Agui was going to pass the test. In the end, he would have passed everything for you. He would have passed everything, but he would have looked at whether you wanted to make a gesture. It's not because he wanted to make a gesture, but he wanted to have a generous aspect. It's the same as when you say that all the girls are open to you to go to the toilet, in the same way that the girls are woman.
Speaker 2:if a man opens the door to the other woman, the other woman has to open the door for him, the other woman has to keep an eye on him and if he opens the door because we have to be careful with that, because it's the reciprocity that makes them not gain the incompatibility. But if you agree one, I don't need to open the machine. Second, I don't need to open the machine. It's not like I can't open the machine. It's more than a princess or queen aspect.
Speaker 1:When you go to the restaurant you need chairs. To put a chair.
Speaker 2:Exactly. So all of that in done to get a minimum. We have to be able to treat them so that the boys can wake up and they can have a good life after 5 years, after 2 years, after 10 years.
Speaker 1:But routine is routine. That's what we do on dates. And then the boys start to disappear in 1 year, 2 years, 3 years, and then I think that two months thought that they were very pleasant. I was joking with Maria. She said, oh, when I'm with Maria, we're having a date. It's an open door for me. It's a pleasure to be with you. I was thinking that I was going to be with you. I was going to be with you and that's a habit I've lost.
Speaker 2:I have a couple that I like, they are the same as me I don't open the car, etc. Until now I can't say until now, because I've lost control. But in the long run, when I go out to open the door, I said I'm going to film your car. She said yes, yes, yes, the lady is going to open the door. I said you're going to film my car. She said if you want to go, I'll take you to the door. I said I'm going to film a black car, because the black car is a special service. There's no way to open the machine for her. I told her that I had to open the machine for her. I told her that I had to open the machine for her. I told her that I had to open the machine for her. I told her that I had to open the machine for her. I told her that I had to open the machine for her. I told her that I had to open the machine for her. I told her that I had to open the machine for like.
Speaker 2:We have to come more often. We have to remember what we have to do.
Speaker 1:When we are comfortable, we have new behaviors to remember. We don't have to stop.
Speaker 2:We don't have to stop. So, as we said earlier, communication is the basis of all relationships, it's the pillar of relationships. It's not communication, dr Beatrice.
Speaker 1:No, not at all.
Speaker 2:Financial incompatibility means that the person poses a problem and you have to look at whether you have a partner who is also more than you. That's not the case, and meanwhile you have to follow all the barriers that exist, Because the one who has to overcome more is the one who needs to overcome more barriers, or the one who has to overcome more, that's the. If I go to the grocery store, I have to go to work.
Speaker 1:You don't have to go to work at all.
Speaker 2:I have to go to work. Because I have to go to work, I have to go to work. Yes, I don't go to restaurants to say I'm going to work or to say I have. You go to a restaurant and say to a young man that you want to pay for a girl to go to a restaurant with a girl, you will have to pay.
Speaker 1:Because I have a problem.
Speaker 1:There was a time when there was a challenge, and it was always with expectations, as if for a boy in a relationship, you had to be like Jean Bagalante, under a big name, or even since 1814. But it was as if there was an obligation for a boy, for a boy to pay all the bills, for a boy to pay the rent for these girls. Pay the bills that exist. They don't even pay bills. But while they want to do everything they can to help the girls in the village, they don't even have a place to live. They don't even have food for themselves. I don't even have food for myself. I don't even have this for the girls.
Speaker 1:And I think that's the problem and that people, as if they were married, married as if they were doing it as a job. It's an apartment that we live in which costs 1,500 or 2,000 dollars, but you want to buy it. You only have to pay the mortgage for 5,000 or 6,000 dollars. But the boy? What can we do about it? We have to go back to reality. We have to understand that. We have to learn to go back to the way we were. It's not because we came to Pasteur-Bréville. I went to Pasteur-Bréville, chita, with this lady. I automatically went to the same place I wanted to go.
Speaker 1:We have to know who is going to teach us. I automatically put the same amount of money I want to save. I have to know who is going to take care of us. Who is going to take care of us? Otherwise, if it's only my husband who has to work, I know I'm going to save the other amount of money, the mortgage that came to me, 5,000-6,000 dollars. I'm going to have to work, do you understand? I'm going to take care of the other part, my daughters. One day they complained I have to work hard to get back to the party. But here they are complaining that the boy is not taking responsibility for the bill, while they want to take it. I don't want to offend anyone, but we have to be honest and balance the situation.
Speaker 2:So there are boys who look after my daughter. They treat her like a princess because a princess is crazy, even personally. But there are boys who always talk to my daughter.
Speaker 1:Do you have a reason for that? I?
Speaker 2:don't have a reason, but it was crazy and there were girls who didn't agree with the boy, but they were always there to make people feel sorry and it ended up very badly, I have to say.
Speaker 1:Yes, it depends on the person who is going to kiss you.
Speaker 2:Even if he is out in the open.
Speaker 1:You understand, I don't know if I would have been able to do it.
Speaker 2:I don't know, Because If you keep on losing girls all the time, all the time, all the time, so that they don't have to do anything, in the end you'll see that they're getting closer. They're getting closer Completely Because they don't have to show that they're doing anything.
Speaker 1:It's because she was, but you can't even take the dignity of a woman or the dignity of a girl, you have to have pride to be able to say everything.
Speaker 2:We can't even try to take the dignity of a girl, because women of value we always need to preach in the church. The virtuous woman that Salomon spoke of herself in Proverbs, chapter 31, it was a laborious woman. A woman who is a woman is a laborious woman and that's why, when they came with globalization, they sought the equality of women with men, without their bodies being linked. Because that's what we've been doing for a long time in the Bible. Because people who read the Bible, who read Proverbs 51, who are people who have explained the virtuous woman. They are people whose wives work hard but has the same job, who doesn't even have a domestic duty. That means that he does not do that, but he does not eat.
Speaker 2:If you have someone who lives in a countryside, I would say that when you have a cultivator who plants, who grows vegetables, it is not the same as the one who plants the grass. The one who rots the hay is not the same Calvany. It's the woman in Calvany in my house, who has a head of the same size as mine, who has never been to another farm. It's the Calvany, not the Calvany man. That's the globalization that has been there for a long time and the woman herself is laborious. So it's for a woman to say that who would join the? You have to go to the net to get your pension Because you don't have a passport. So we have 5 million.
Speaker 1:It's not supposed to be like that and to end it all with the cost of living. It's not feasible.
Speaker 2:So it's not can't do that If we fall into this financial incompatibility, we will see that money is not easily compatible. So if we don't have love, if we don't have a nuptial understanding, we will see what will happen. Because in politics we say that If there is no nuptial understanding then there is a problem. Because in politics we say that they finance the commode.
Speaker 1:But it's dirty. No they want to do it.
Speaker 2:They don't want to do it, it's dirty, yes, but there is a problem Because the globalization between the equality of men with women, in reality, that finance commodes. But in reality, whether we take a primitive reality or a current reality, it is not everything that is in the girl's mind and that's why we are talking about the American reality that girls have to be more like men than boys, but that doesn't mean that girls have to be more like boys than boys.
Speaker 1:I think that mentality is like nowadays. That's what you are remembering. Nowadays we see that a girl who is younger, you feel more comfortable with her because you have someone who is 10 or 15 years younger than you, because you have work. You have a job and then young men like that you have to provide everything that someone needs and then young men stop Because even when you are there, they feel that they are commenting as if they want to reverse reality of life, there are letters that say that you are without a boy.
Speaker 1:But in fact I say that as if you are 50 years old, right? And that, unfortunately, a young man who is 35 years old, a young man who is 35 years old, people comfort him. He is 25 years old, right?
Speaker 2:Yes, he is, do you understand? 50, 35, 25.
Speaker 1:And that whoever is there, that I myself, I offer him from a financial point of view. When someone says the money is gone, he has accumulated it, but the money is gone. But it's not a plan, it's not a future project for me.
Speaker 2:No, sometimes all the people don't need a future project. They simply need someone to put their success in their lives.
Speaker 1:Yes, but it happened. But there are some people in you who are going to fall into the illusion that a young man has made a living with you.
Speaker 2:Yes, it's an illusion. Thank you very much for telling me that it's an illusion, because I don man like that lives with you. Yes, it's an illusion. Thank you for telling me that, Because young men don't live like that, but you have to be crazy to stop it.
Speaker 1:Besides, at 50 years old, you will start to have problems. You will have problems that you will have the capacity to create and start to reduce, to not say that you will reduce it completely, I will say that I will not, if that's the case, have done it.
Speaker 2:He would have done it. He would have done it all the time If he had not been in sexual incompatibility. We would have been in it. Because 30 years old poses a problem in this incompatibility. Because, even if someone comes to me and says, pastor, I want to marry someone, or marry someone who is 50 years old and who has 35 years of marriage experience, I don't want to explain to anyone what I have as a vision during my marriage. If you are 50 years old and your husband is 35 years old and you have a partner, do you think you can adopt a partner? What would you do?
Speaker 1:We have to have a plan to have a partner. We have to have a partner who can be a partner and who can be a partner for both partners. We have to be able to agree that we are married but we don't need to be in a relationship.
Speaker 2:So that's what we saw earlier when we didn't have communication. It's simply communication, communicating who we are and how we react. So when these girls are older than boys, the more danger they have for themselves, for example when they are 35. Because at that age they have to be able to talk about the incompatibilities that they have, the incompatibilities of character. Forget that. It means that character is not allowed to walk at all. It is made of character to be able to walk. If we take the other, we almost don't have the same vision in one.
Speaker 2:We almost don't have the same vision when it's a girl with 50, a little girl. In her own she's 35. So the good incompatibility that we have to walk in our relationship because you or I could be there whatever are, the one who has to be there, no matter what people say about you.